Tell It Like It Is!

This is a good one only because it happens so often. What comes out of our mouths isn't always what we mean. Their are times when you get so angry at him for not know what you are thinking, yet your not being clear enough for him to figure it out. This goes hand in hand with my last blog. In order for our communication to be effective, you have to be clear and to the point. DO NOT assume he knows what you mean, how your felling or what your talking bout. I guarantee that he don't and never will.

Mean what you say! Don't ask him to leave if you really don't want him to leave. A man takes these words as a free pass to leave and trust me when he is gone, he is gone. Don't tell him that your breaking up with him, if deep down your not ready to. If he believes the relationship is in jeopardy every time you fight then he is going to avoid the situation altogether and keep it moving, and not in the direction your expecting. Because your only leading him to believe that everything he does could potentially send you two towards a breakup, your allowing the man to focus on other possibitlies that can get him out of the current situation.

Ladies, we get angry and our anger results in words we later regret. A man is not in tuned to our thinking. He is going to go with every word you said and role with it. His thoughts are, "Well, she told me to leave so I'm out. I will be back tomorrow man, I'm not dealing with this crazy girl." And trust me that man won't walk in till tomorrow morning, hoping that your fire burned out a notch.

But fellas, your wrong! Now she is even more mad at you and the situation is going to lead to something else. Avoid the drama, When she says get the hell out, go get her flowers and tickets to a movie. When she says it's over, she really needs you to show more affection. When she tells you something is wrong, listen to her. And vise versa. Ladies, be the women your man needs as much as you need him to be a man to you.

Ladies, a man don't know what your thinking unless your specific and that is where communication plays a role. Communicate wisely and specifically. Bring it straight forward. If how you feel doesn't concern him then he isn't the one you need to be with. He should listen and be aware of your feelings and make the efforts needed to make those changes. A man that cares for his women, any man for that matter that realizes he is wrong, will admit to his faults and correct his flaws.If the relationship is one that he is not willing to loose, I guarantee that the minute you sit and communicate with him effectively, things will begin to turn around.

Now, I am well aware of the jerk that won't care at all how you feel. I had a few share of them too. You love him and that is why you keep trying. But let me tell you this, you will keep trying and he will keep being the way he is because your faithfulness he knows isn't something he is going to loose. Don't be stupid ladies. There comes a time where you just got to take your lose and move on. There is not one man out there worth waiting around for if time after time his results remain the same.

"It's better to be alone then being accompanied by someone that still makes you feel lonely." 

-Judy Ortiz

God Bless!

Judy Ortiz

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