Child Support

Child Supports Core Mission is the following.

 

Child Support is not a payback to a father/mother who has no part in his/her child's life. It is a resource available to the mother/father that is raising a child on their own with no financial help form the other parent. It is meant to establish paternity, support orders and locate parents that are absent. Child Support is a way of helping the parent that is raising a child alone, to have finical stability to give the child what he/she would have if the parent were in the child's life.

I am a single mother of five, three men fathered these children in the same form I mothered them. I shouldn't have to take the load upon myself to maintain a life and lifestyle for these children, as they go about their lives and do nothing to help. I may have made the choices to keep them, but they also had made the choices to do what they did to make them.

What prompted my decision recently after so many years to file support against the three, was the mere fact that I am sick of hearing how many bags of weed they are smoking, or studio sessions their paying for, or beers they drank last weekend, when I am struggling to purchase pampers and pay for daycare. I mean seriously? Lets do the math, shall we? Lets!

Between the three fathers that fathered my children here are the expenses they spend on things that on some real 'ish don't matter!

• A case of beer of his choice $24 x 4 weekends is a total of $96
• Drug of his choice $10 x 30 days is a total of $300
• A studio session of an hour can run $100-150 if not more.. 2 three times a month . is a total of  $3-400 a month

I can go on and on. I am sick and tired of seeing photos of them all over Facebook with sneakers that cost anywhere from $100-150 when their children have a pair a quarter of that price! So lets face it, call it what you want I will call it what it is. If you got money for all this unnecessary worthless 'ish, then you got money to support your kid! Point! Blank! Period!

Child Support is not a way out of poverty or a check I am looking to receive to get my next weave or get my nails done. I work two jobs to handle that. It is a check I deserve from the fathers of my children to help take the load off my back and to provide my kids what they need without ever having to say no!

Child Support issues can go in so many ways. Their are fathers out there that do what they can for their children and still are hit with child support. Understand this, coming from a single mother, I do sympathize with you. If my children's fathers were man enough to do what your doing, I would have never made the choices I made. In fact at one point I took one off support because he at one point was providing for his children. But also understand this, it takes a lot more to raise and support a child when it's only just one in the home. An outfit, pair of sneakers and a lunch date here and there don't cut it. Their are so many other things that come into effect when raising a child alone.

For the mothers that take that money paid to them to only take care of themselves, well, I honestly have no words for that. If money comes before your children, rather if you come before your children then you have no business being a mother. Stop allowing your vanity to become greater then your responsibility and take that money and go get your children a better pair of sneakers and try this for change, maybe your daughter would like a new outfit too!

I definitely feel that I did the right thing, and I honestly could care less how mad these men get. One had the audacity to tell me to loose his number. LMAO! Dude really, so now your going to care even more less then you did cause now your going to be forced to support him? Well alright then. No problem! After I gave the number to the case worker, the number got lost! Boy Bye! Ain't nobody got time for that.

To end this..

Ladies, I believe you have every right to seek the help you need from these men that walk around as if they owe nothing to these children or you for raising them. Men, please take up the responsibility. Be thankful for your children, be thankful that God even allowed you the amazing gift of being a father and do all you can while you can because you never know when it is to late. That goes for the dead beat mothers as well!

God Bless!

Judy Ortiz

Thoughts Of A Real Women... Pieces Of Me